Have often do you vocalize your deepest desires? When we think about sharing our goals and aspirations we often think about the vulnerability associated with sharing with others. I ask each of you to reflect on the last time you vocalized your goals and aspirations, regardless of how grand, to yourself? I know that some people consider it strange to talk to yourself, but the truth is that if you have conversations internally, it is no different than expressing those thoughts outwardly. It’s called self talk, but that’s a story for another day. The point is that there is truth in the statement of ‘speaking truth into reality’.
So often I meet with professionals who have been told that they can’t have it all (a personal life, exceptional education, outstanding career, etc.) and they’ve lost sight of the childhood mindset that encourages each of us to remember that we can have anything we set out minds to. Furthermore, they’ve conditioned themselves to restrict their think within the boundaries of realities defined by others. We should all welcome and encourage the input of others, especially those that have your best interest at heart, but it is also important to remember that the life that we live is a story designed specifically for each of us.
So the next time someone tries to tell you what you can or can’t have in life, even if that someone if your inner voice, I encourage you to take time to reflect on their input and respectfully say:
No thank you. I’ll take it all.
Don’t allow people’s perception of your life to prevent you from achieving things greater than you can imagine. At the end of the day it’s not about having it all, because that implies that it’s being given to you, it’s about taking it all. There are so many factors in life that we can’t control, but once you identify the things that you can control, take hold and do something amazing! Pursue your passions, find your side hustles and own the things you desire.
President Cynthia T. Matson (@PrezMatson), Texas A&M University-San Antonio, challenges our institution daily to be audacious in our thinking and execution of our duties and I encourage you to do the same with your life. Remember that courageous conversations lead to audacious goals and audacious goals change the world!